Advice for victims - if an argument starts


If an argument starts:

  • Get out of danger if you can and go straight to a safe place.
    If this is not possible, try to keep as calm and rational as you can.  Keep your body language, movement and tone of voice as non-threatening as possible.

  • If matters do become more serious, try to keep yourself between your partner and any escape route, such as the front door, in case you need to get out quickly.  Avoid the bathroom, kitchen or garage, or anywhere near potential weapons.

  • If violence does occur and you are in danger, call 999 immediately.  Report a domestic abuse incident to the police straight away; nationally it takes an average of 35 incidents before a victim goes to the police.  If you don't do something about domestic abuse the first time it happens, it is likely to happen again.

  • You should gather together as much evidence as possible relating to the abuse.  This may include a diary, text messages, emails, medical and police reports or photographs.  Al though you may not be ready to take action against your abuser on that occasion, the evidence you gather can often be used in later proceedings.