What is abuse?
Abuse doesn’t have to be physical violence.There is also mental abuse in the form of threats or being degraded by a partner through constant put downs.
It can also be being forced into a situation you don’t want to be in or feeling pressured into spending time with your boyfriend or girlfriend when you would rather be doing something else, as well as feeling guilty about having your own friends and interests.
Are you in an abusive relationship?
There are many situations which may make you question whether you’re in an abusive relationship.You may keep opinions to yourself or change your behaviour to avoid getting into conflict with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
You may find your partner acts jealously or possessively when you talk to people of the opposite sex or feel controlled by them in terms of what you wear.
Your partner may text you obsessively, try to stop you seeing your friends or family or blame you for things they have done.
If any of these situations apply to you then you may be in an abusive relationship.
All forms of mental abuse can also lead to physical violence.
Friends spotting signs of abuse
You can help friends by looking out for signs that they may be in an abusive relationship.They may have become withdrawn and are irritable when you ask how they are.
They may try to hide bruises or make excuses for a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Find the right moment to talk to them and give them the support they need.
Parents spotting signs of abuse
Parents can also look out for the signs abuse in their teenager.Grades at school may drop; your child may be acting more depressed or wearing the same clothes each day.
Again find the right time to talk to your child and remember, they may feel embarrassed or ashamed to let you know what is happening in their relationship or be afraid of their partner.
Always remember to make it clear to them that it’s not their fault that they are in this situation and that they shouldn’t put up with controlling or abusive behaviour.
Don’t suffer in silence – helplines
If you think you’re in an abusive relationship, don’t suffer in silence.Discuss it with a parent, friend, school teacher or adult so you can get the help you need.
There are agencies out there that can help, even if you just want more advice.
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